The honeymoon phase is a joyful and carefree stage in a couple’s relationship. Both individuals are in the process of discovering each other and tend to overlook minor flaws in their partner. Everything about the new partner—from their eating habits to the anecdotes they share—appears delightful and heartwarming.
Naturally, the honeymoon phase is just that: a phase. Sooner or later, it concludes, requiring both partners to adapt to a different, more stable reality. Some couples find the honeymoon phase ends sooner than they desire, while others may not experience it at all. To better understand this period and how to manage it, we consulted licensed therapist Michelle Mouhtis. “My main piece of advice is to relish the experience,” she states. “It truly is a unique time for couples, regardless of how brief or prolonged it may be.”
Here, she discusses everything you need to know about the honeymoon phase, including its definition, duration, and what follows when it concludes.
What Is the Honeymoon Phase?
The honeymoon phase is an initial segment of a couple’s relationship characterized by a sense of ease and happiness. It typically spans six months to two years and is often filled with laughter, intimacy, and enjoyable outings.
When Does the Honeymoon Phase Occur?
For the majority of couples, the honeymoon phase begins right from the start. “It marks the very onset of a new relationship,” says Mouhtis. “It’s a time when every little detail about the person you’re dating is intriguing, including their unique quirks.” One significant reason the honeymoon phase is incredibly thrilling is that it comes too early to grasp the complete personality of the partner, with all its positive and negative aspects. “Everything about this individual appears flawless because adequate time hasn’t passed to witness their shortcomings,” she adds. “And everyone has shortcomings.” Some couples might experience the honeymoon phase after reaching a major milestone, like moving in together or getting engaged.
To determine if you’re in the honeymoon phase, focus on your emotions and how you perceive your partner. “The most evident sign of being in the honeymoon phase is believing the person before you is perfect,” says Mouhtis. “You view them solely in a positive light and struggle to envision any faults or incompatibilities. Everything is going smoothly, and enjoyable moments occur over 90 percent of the time.”
Do All Relationships Have a Honeymoon Phase?
Not every couple goes through a honeymoon phase, or their experience of it may unfold gradually over time. If you don’t have a honeymoon phase, there’s no cause for concern; in fact, it may foster a healthier long-term relationship.
Those who feel an immediate spark with their partner might be distracted by excitement and fail to see the complete picture of their relationship. When that intense attraction isn’t present, it might lead to partners getting to know each other at a slower pace, allowing for a more realistic understanding of one another. “Relationships that start like this often evolve into lasting love, with moments of honeymooning intertwined over time, rather than experiencing it all at the outset and then watching it fade,” shares Mouhtis.
Mouhtis highlights a red flag is if chemistry isn’t developed over time. “Of course, sometimes the chemistry simply isn’t there, and that’s okay,” she states. “But if there’s interest and attraction without a sense of longing, then I genuinely believe the connection is worth exploring because romance can develop over time.”
How to Enjoy the Honeymoon Phase
The honeymoon phase of a relationship feels like a fairy tale. Everything is joyful, serene, and enjoyable. The most crucial thing to do during this time is to treasure it, emphasizes Mouhtis. “This phase is intended to be enjoyed and to be fun.” Go out on dates, embark on adventures, and spend considerable time savoring each other’s presence. The honeymoon phase is also an ideal moment to learn about your partner. “Exploration mode is engaged, and you’re eager to uncover every detail about this person,” she elaborates. “Additionally, there’s a significant amount of chemistry and frequent, passionate intimacy.”
Due to its temporary nature, if a couple isn’t married when experiencing the honeymoon phase, Mouhtis advises against making significant decisions. “The honeymoon phase isn’t the right time for substantial relationship decisions,” she explains. “I do not suggest purchasing property together, moving in, or getting engaged during the honeymoon phase.”
How Can You Determine When the Honeymoon Phase Has Ended?
“When the honeymoon phase concludes, it often feels like a burst of a bubble,” explains Mouhtis. “You start to understand that this individual is not flawless, you begin to notice their shortcomings, and inevitable disagreements will begin to surface.” You might find yourself becoming annoyed with your partner or observing characteristics about him or her that escaped your notice before. An increase in arguments or a decrease in intimacy may also occur. It’s normal to question your relationship during this phase.
The foundations for long-term relationships begin to form when the honeymoon phase diminishes.
All these emotions and changes are completely acceptable and represent essential milestones in the evolution of your relationship. “The conclusion of the honeymoon phase is when everyday life with this individual becomes apparent,” states Mouhtis. “Long-term relationships commence as the honeymoon phase fades.”
What Occurs After the Honeymoon Phase Concludes?
Following the honeymoon phase, couples may encounter various challenges. They might have disagreements on significant issues or trivial matters and might even contemplate whether they wish to continue their relationship after their partner’s flaws have come to light. Previously enjoyable activities, such as grocery shopping or cooking together, may start to feel more tedious than thrilling. Enduring these challenges is crucial, as Mouhtis emphasizes. “The foundation of enduring relationships is established when partners navigate hardships together and emerge stronger.” If you manage to get through this bubble burst together, it signifies your ability to face future challenges as a unit.
Mouhtis encourages all her clients to recognize that the honeymoon phase is just one of several stages their relationship will experience, both positive and negative. As she states, “Just because the honeymoon has ended, doesn’t mean the relationship has finished.”
After an exciting wedding, the honeymoon is a chance for couples to relax and enjoy precious time as newlyweds. While simply traveling to a beautiful destination can be captivating, orchestrating a truly romantic getaway requires a bit more thought. Here are some straightforward suggestions for planning a honeymoon filled with romance from start to finish.
Organize a Private Picnic
Prepare a picnic for just the two of you in a picturesque location, whether it’s a hidden beach, lush hillside, or charming vineyard. Be sure to bring along some of your favorite food items. Additionally, include a bottle of wine or champagne and make a toast to your new journey as a married couple.
Candlelit Dinner
Reserve a table for an intimate dinner in a memorable setting. Many premier restaurants offer private dining experiences under the stars, in secluded cabanas, or right on the beach. For example, Capische Restaurant at the Hotel Wailea Maui provides an exclusive dining option that guests often find irresistible. Through the restaurant’s interactive Il Teatro service, patrons can enjoy a personalized menu created by a chef, accompanied by a wine tasting—all served in a private dining space.
Dedicate a Day to Relax In Bed
Choose one day to sleep in and simply enjoy each other’s company within your hotel or rental. Order room service for breakfast and select a movie you’ve both wanted to watch for a while. Many couples tend to over-schedule activities during their honeymoon, which can lead to exhaustion and diminish romantic energy. Make sure to designate at least one day of your getaway for relaxation in each other’s arms.
Couples Massage
Unwind side by side in a private beach cabana or a massage suite as both of you indulge in a refreshing massage treatment. For those who are inexperienced, this is also an excellent way for individuals to feel at ease with receiving a massage. You can choose from various options, including Swedish, Sports, Deep Tissue, or even Lomi Lomi massages.
Incorporate Personal Touches
Create a romantic ambiance by adding personal touches throughout your honeymoon. Candles can enhance the atmosphere and be placed in both the bedroom and bathroom. Rose petals, lingerie, champagne, chocolates, and music are also wonderful ways to maintain the romance during your trip. If certain items cannot be packed, check with your hotel staff for assistance.
Surprise Each Other with Daily Gifts
Small daily gifts will serve as a constant reminder of your affection for one another. As for gift ideas, consider writing a heartfelt note or love letter for your partner and surprising them with it at some point during the day. You could also get them their favorite wine, plan an unexpected picnic, or buy a thoughtful keepsake. Ultimately, it’s not the cost of the gift that matters, but rather the sentiment behind it.
Enjoy a Bath Together
For many couples, taking a bath or soaking in a Jacuzzi together ranks high on the list of romantic experiences. First, ensure you request accommodations that come equipped with a hot tub or large Jacuzzi. Next, chill some champagne, light candles around the space, scatter rose petals, play soothing music, and enjoy treats like chocolate or strawberries. Remember to include extras like bath salts and soaps for an enhanced experience.
Watch the Sunrise
For a most memorable and romantic experience, get up early and watch the sunrise from a unique location. Whether it’s a sandy beach or majestic mountaintop, it’s moments like these that you’ll remember for the rest of your life. Hold hands, share a kiss, and reminisce about all of your new experiences so far together as a married couple.